BDSM exchange 2022 Letter
Jun. 12th, 2022 12:03 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
blueyeti(very last minute) letter for BDSM exchange 2022.
Lovely creator, I plan to edit this to be complete by Tuesday 14th.
I signed up for this one right under the wire. Last minute, much stress, just throwing tags at things when I found them. Sorry for the messy sign up. Any inequality on the tags or descriptions does not reflect my level of interest.
Our lovely mods added spousal abuse to my DNWs post sign up (because I messed up), which contradicts one aspect of my standard c&p DNW list.
Longer explanation of my spousal abuse trigger: Non-consensual controlling behaviour, especially in non-sexual/non-scene situations. Emotional and psychological abuse things. Possibility of triggering me about controlling a spouse, when the control is in a non-bedroom situation. Control of friendships, outside relationships, finances etc. especially when it's framed as 'for your own good', care, or protective.
But if you're writing a villain doing bad things, I'm okay. Slade/Dick etc can have controlling behaviour. Make that messy! But I don't want a fic where someone who isn't canonically bad/morally ambiguous doing that to their lover.
General BDSM likes:
Smut or no smut is good.
Aftercare.
Sex or scenes which end in playful laughter and not taking themselves too seriously.
Competence kink.
Praise kink (as humiliation is a bit dodgy for me sometimes) but praise kink is amazing.
Painplay of whatever flavour.
Dom pov, or sub pov. Both are fab, and I can vibe with both of them. Outsider povs are also great. If you want an OC voyeur pov of the couple, go for it.
Dominant masochism.
marking - bites, bruises, collars, possessive jewelry.
A dom giving a permanent mark: scarification? Piercings? Tattoos? One fic where a highly competent sadist gave his sub a nipple piercing as a romantic gesture has lived on in my psyche since 2006.
(Exception to this: Couple tattoos... if both people are getting tattooed, it's okay, but the real life connotations of one person getting a representation of their lover/SO etc on them is... a lot I don't want to think about in my escapism. This might seem like a contradiction to my oooh, body mods are sexy! But I don't want anyone's name/portrait/property of etc on someone's body.
Being given explicit permission mod someone's body and doing it with a lot of sexy competence is different to getting a name tattoo which is the real world echo I don't like.)
Corsetry, leather, gloves, boots, lingerie.
General BDSM dislikes (not as far as DNW, but don't do much for me):
24/7 scenarios.
Lovely creator, I plan to edit this to be complete by Tuesday 14th.
I signed up for this one right under the wire. Last minute, much stress, just throwing tags at things when I found them. Sorry for the messy sign up. Any inequality on the tags or descriptions does not reflect my level of interest.
Our lovely mods added spousal abuse to my DNWs post sign up (because I messed up), which contradicts one aspect of my standard c&p DNW list.
Longer explanation of my spousal abuse trigger: Non-consensual controlling behaviour, especially in non-sexual/non-scene situations. Emotional and psychological abuse things. Possibility of triggering me about controlling a spouse, when the control is in a non-bedroom situation. Control of friendships, outside relationships, finances etc. especially when it's framed as 'for your own good', care, or protective.
But if you're writing a villain doing bad things, I'm okay. Slade/Dick etc can have controlling behaviour. Make that messy! But I don't want a fic where someone who isn't canonically bad/morally ambiguous doing that to their lover.
General BDSM likes:
Smut or no smut is good.
Aftercare.
Sex or scenes which end in playful laughter and not taking themselves too seriously.
Competence kink.
Praise kink (as humiliation is a bit dodgy for me sometimes) but praise kink is amazing.
Painplay of whatever flavour.
Dom pov, or sub pov. Both are fab, and I can vibe with both of them. Outsider povs are also great. If you want an OC voyeur pov of the couple, go for it.
Dominant masochism.
marking - bites, bruises, collars, possessive jewelry.
A dom giving a permanent mark: scarification? Piercings? Tattoos? One fic where a highly competent sadist gave his sub a nipple piercing as a romantic gesture has lived on in my psyche since 2006.
(Exception to this: Couple tattoos... if both people are getting tattooed, it's okay, but the real life connotations of one person getting a representation of their lover/SO etc on them is... a lot I don't want to think about in my escapism. This might seem like a contradiction to my oooh, body mods are sexy! But I don't want anyone's name/portrait/property of etc on someone's body.
Being given explicit permission mod someone's body and doing it with a lot of sexy competence is different to getting a name tattoo which is the real world echo I don't like.)
Corsetry, leather, gloves, boots, lingerie.
General BDSM dislikes (not as far as DNW, but don't do much for me):
24/7 scenarios.
